First on the road with is Jaime Ridge - my best friend, maid of honour and oldest and dearest friend.
We have been through heartbreak, marriages, divorce, sickness, health, utmost happiness, love and despair.
Having a history and friendship like ours is pretty rare. Our mums were best friends and if you heard them talk about us and what we have been through you would understand just how special but also equally weird and hilarious our friendship really is.
As you get older, you really just want to be surrounded by good people, people who are good for you, good to you, and good for your soul.
Hard times will always reveal true friends and Jaime has always been the epitome of loyalty and shown me the utmost truth in times I have needed to hear it in order to grow and push through hardships.
Friends who genuinely want to see you do well are the ones you need to surround yourself with in life.
At the end of the day, you don’t just lose friends, because real friends can never be lost. You lose people masquerading as friends, and you’re better off for it!
The last 2 years have been some of my most informative, happiest, hardest, most challenging, growing, moulding, powerful and accepting years of my life!
I'm not a perfect person, but I believe the friendships and people you surround yourself with are what make you the best version of yourself and having a friendship as strong as ours has been part of the reason I am where I am today.
I spoke with Jaime a little about her day-to-day challenges, thoughts on social media in regards to wellbeing and her views on mental health, and trying to manage a balanced lifestyle.
Can you tell us a little bit about what you do and how you got to what you are doing today?
Of course! To put it very vaguely I’m a fashion stylist, content curator and producer. I absolutely love creating and I love what I do, I’m very lucky - something I need to remind myself regularly!
What is it like living in the public eye? Social media makes it look very glamorous…is this the case all the time?
Living in the public eye undeniably has its difficulties, however when it’s all you know you just work with it, as everything has its challenges and along with those are benefits also. Oh yes! Social Media is very good at making life look super glamorous, and some of the time it is, and as I said I’m very lucky however no one lives in a perfect world, and I think that’s something we all need to remind ourselves. We are all perfectly imperfect!
What does a typical day look like to you?
I don’t really have a typical day! My career is very demanding and requires a lot of travel so I don’t often get to spend longer than a couple of weeks at home. I do however try to keep some day-to-day normalities such as my ritualistic skincare routine, my morning coffee and email routine and my daily walks. These small things help keep my mental state in check and help me feel I’m in charge of my life, rather than my life being in charge of me.
Have you been through hardships and struggles in your adult life due to work stresses, anxiety, mental health?
Absolutely, my life is far from perfect, and I do have immense stress and anxieties at times, and that’s something I have learned and am learning to manage. I think everyone experiences some form of stress in their life, however, it’s how we deal with these that determine the impact it has on ourselves. Self-care is so important, and it’s undeniably something I need to implement more of in my life!
How have you managed this? What do you do to cope?
Talking and sharing my worries and concerns is my main coping mechanism. A problem shared is a problem halved. Compartmentalising is also something I’m learning to implement; it’s tough but very powerful.
Do you find the industry to be challenging at times? Do you ever feel like giving up?
Absolutely! I do find the industry to be tough at times, but at the same time I absolutely love it and I couldn’t imagine doing anything else. Everything has its ups and downs; it’s how you work with these that make the difference.
What is your secret to a better mentality, clarity and wellbeing?
Talking, exercising, healthy eating and loving. Talking and sharing your thoughts, exercising and maintaining a healthy lifestyle and lastly loving. Loving yourself, those important to you and what you do.
What were your thoughts on me posting so much about my struggles and journey with anxiety, birth control, and depression knowing what I have been challenged with lately? What are your thoughts on The Simplistic Road?
Darling, I thought you were so brave. I wholeheartedly admire you for what you did. Such an incredibly strong thing to do. I’m so proud of you. We all are.
I think The Simplistic Road is an amazing platform for those going through hardships in their life, knowing they are not alone and that tough times will and do get better!
Have you struggled as a woman to find balance in your life, hormones, etc.?
I have, I think balance is hard in every area of my life. I’m a workaholic and success is my life’s driving force so balance is something I’m still learning!
What natural remedies help you find balance in your life?
Tea! I love tea! A cup of tea fixes everything. Also, a great podcast which we both love!
Being based in LA and travelling so frequently for work how do you manage balance in your life?
In all honesty, I haven’t really found balance since moving here, it’s something I’m working on – promise!
What would be your message to those going through a period of struggle in their life?
That you’re absolutely not alone, everyone has struggles and these struggles allow you to prove to yourself how strong you really are.
What is your favourite mantra that you like to live by? What is your philosophy on life?My philosophy is everything happens for a reason because I truly believe it does.
For more on Jaime check out www.dillondot.com or @jaimeridge.
- Soph x